Sometimes during the course of having good sex, love shows up and then what?
Do you run?
Do you hide?
Do you abandon ship and say to hell with Mr.Good Dick/Ms.Good Pussy?
OR do you acknowledge it?
Do you allow yourself to become vulnerable to a person whom you’ve gotten naked with on numerous occasions? Someone who may not know where you were born or your middle name?
If you choose to share,care and acknowledge it-AWESOME for you!!
Now if their reaction wasn’t as you planned whether your sex partner decided to not return the love or they decided to depart from the (homie lover) friendship you must be the “big kid” to accept that when love shows up, sometimes it does not announce itself and sometimes it doesn’t come with a how-to manual. And we are all not gifted individual crystal balls at our 21st birthday to predict its path or outcome. AND just because you”caught feelings”doesn’t mean your partner has to or will ever feel the same way.
In each and every intimate situation we place ourselves in on this planet, especially one that includes sexual relations we put ourselves at greater risk to not only disease yes,we increase our chances of being infected by love. Which is created by an emotional bond.
When you have reoccurring sex you are opening yourself to the possibility of falling for that other person. For your partner this can be like, subscribing to a magazine. What do you do when the magazine is taken over by a new editor or publishing company and you no longer enjoy the contents of the magazine. Do you cancel your subscription? Or do you continue to pay and receive the subscription knowing its contents is not what you originally signed up for? Don’t have a clue? Because you may still enjoy the high definition photography and the manufacturer coupons inside (i.e.-the other benefits of the sexual relationship).
To honestly answer any of the above may be tough for some of us, when we want what we want no matter if we receive unwanted or useless energy (to some) from it. If it makes us feel even too remotely good, we are human-we are more drawn to it.
Where we commonly fail, is when we do not go into a situation knowing the risk,the possibility-the”what if”. And allowing these “what if’s” to be discussed prior to getting involved. Whether you choose to discuss them with your partner prior is up to you, but a “real talk” conversation must occur in your mind. And it can be done by yourself. YES, I said it-talk to yourself about yourself,about yourself and this sexual relationship you are about to begin with Mr.Dick/Ms.Pussy. Having a “real" moment with yourself will save you some pain later on.
No one can fully prepare for the unceremoniously arrival of love. All you can do is be real with yourself,like I’ve done most of the time. I show up to the “party” smelling good,in my best dress and I either go inside and have fun or get back in my car and head home (alone…looking good..feeling dumb,but walking tall…spared from another love tragedy).
The choice is yours.
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